Although the year 2020 is history in itself; a year packed with dramatic events and shifts to our collective consciousness, making the past seem so foreign, as if from a whole other forgotten dimension.
In the process, existential values have been honed, gratefulness has become our inner solace, and inner discovery allowed us to see beyond ourselves—in this case, a celestial world celebrating the new era of our time. A unique celebration of two planets conjunction—Saturn and Jupiter; the Great conjunction in the age of Aquarius. Ornamenting the sky like a pair of cherries— the closest they have been so far.
And since double cherries grow under a lot of stress; due to cherry trees being under tough conditions—from early exposure to heat, to being less exposed to water. Similar to the stressful year of 2020, yet resulting with a fruitful delicacy of taste and appearance seen in a unique Celestial communication over the darkened Earth sky.
It has been a year— Of dramatic shift to life Like a birthday cake; Over baked under high heat Then topped with sweet cherry pair.
A healthy relationship, according to my own definition is that which does not feel like the involved people are operating from their “shadow fronts” rather than from their “authentic fronts”. In other words, those who are self-aware rather than self-conscious. Who still do their best, without coming off insensitive. Who have a healthy moral compass.
A relationship should feel like a safe place of exchange; where thoughts, emotions, and preferences are communicated safely and without having to feel scared or humiliated. A skillful approach is vital in communicating ones own needs and thoughts. It should not hurt the person or others.
Space and time work best for the clarity of mind and heart. It is meant to communicate to the other that there are no attachment issues in order for trust to prevail.
Although having space and time is important, they also don’t mean that it is a form of mind game or done to make the other person feel weak, or needy, or even to test someone’s love or affection. It means accepting that things must take time, and rushing into sex or into something too intimate might not feel right or worth it in the future. So, one must really know who they are dealing with. Even if it wasn’t intended as a romantic relationship. Knowing that respect is everything in all relationships, and to be treated with unconditional care if not with unconditional love.
To also be human, but not a humiliating or demeaning one. To tame down the ego, and to never come off as needy, desperate, or selfish. Selfishness is a disease. It originates from the ego’s despair for not believing one is worthy enough or good enough. So they become so feisty, and want to do anything to convince their ego that they are worth it in an unhealthy way, and it is mostly instinctive such as: greed in food, sex, time, and money in the form of addiction.
A healthy relationship means the person cares about their decent image thus say what they mean and mean what they say. They are simply reliable.
They can make mistakes, but are okay to apologize sincerely, without having to excessively show they are sorry, or to keep bringing up the resolved subject.
Who also don’t make you feel like you are too much, and your pain is small. Who don’t raise their voice to silence or to shut your pain down. Who love and respect your vulnerability. Because they are safe at feeling vulnerable too.
Who get it when you are nice because you choose to be nice to them, not because you are sexually attracted. In other words, they can distinguish between your true colors, and their own lens—an instinctive projection.
Love grows without feeling pressured, or guilty for choosing oneself, when it is done in a specific pleasant manner. Love does not make the other person lie about who they are, or try to change the other person’s reality when the person actually loves and feels safe in their own reality, even if it is (so) different.
Love doesn’t fear to lose the person but it is careful of not losing the person, consistently, and not for selfish reasons.
When in a relationship, give and take flows naturally, and it isn’t meant to boost egos or to win approval, neither a competition.
And in order to be satisfied in a relationship, one must have the freedom of choice in which they can be themselves, which at its best form, comes from their safest childlike and higher self place.
For those with immature qualities, mistake it with being vulnerable. While it is the unhealed aspects from their childhood or past, which in return, activates it in others with whom they encounter. And for those with vulnerable qualities, they feel safe at being healed, feel free to be open to experience, and don’t have to please everyone. But to keep monitoring themselves, all the time.
Love and relationship are the two sides of the same hard coin, one side will always affect the other, or represent the other, as well as the people involved.
This is my take on the psychological dynamic of love and relationship, since these two literally govern our lives, but we always have the power and it is in our right to rule in or to rule out what brings meaning, or what brings distress to our lives. Because what matters the most is our peace of mind, in order to feel and be more productive in life.
As life formation began in space, with theory of relativity to put it all in place From Mercury to Neptune, in opposite ways Running circles in an endless race As each has a separate phase Of various states, weights, and rates More like siblings, relatives, and mates Grounded by the holy Sun’s grace; With a Moon celebrating Earth’s face Inspiring the night as it sings and plays To evoke the essence of all Earth’s waves Like emotions, weathers, nights and days The family of space recites all fates abiding to the law of time and dates As space history to time relates In the Milky Way of our Earth’s case
Poetry by Farah A.Y
I will share my belief on what a space family is:
Since the Sun of our Solar system is the source of life, the igniter, the stabilizing force of life. in other words, the father of our solar system, it is the light that we are in constant need of reaching, and achieving throughout our life’s endeavors. This has been the case since ancient philosophies and civilizations; stating that the Sun is the source of life, a Devine power—a deity.
Earth is not a lonely planet. Earth has siblings, and relatives. There is a whole history (tree) of planetary family in the vast space.
The moon is equivalent to the mother figure. A source of inspiration, that stirs up the essence of life’s waves, causing change, birth and rebirth. The moon is the mother of our earth; she watches over the earth at night, and she controls the Earth’s cries through its influence on sea and ocean tides.
The other planets surrounding the Earth are important in keeping each other in balance. As siblings proving support for one another.
The story of our Universe is the story of our lives. We are only replicating the stories decoded in our genes out into our visible world . We are designed to do it in that sense. Besides the Darwinian Theory, which adds to making us social beings.